Do you have some Negative Friends around you? It’s not easy to deal with negative people especially when you are on your journey to success.
When I started my journey to success I noticed many negative friends around me. It wasn’t easy to deal with them because those friends were my best friends and I knew them since we were wearing diapers. If you are working hard to make your dreams come true right now, I am sure you’ve noticed some negative people around you. In today’s post, I want to share some thoughts about negative friends, why negative people are poison to your success and how to deal with all the negativity around you.
The most important thing is to understand your friends. Don’t become negative because you will be at the same level as they are. The key here is to understand them so you can deal with them much easier. People who carry negative energy usually have a lot of going on in their lives. They are struggling financially or emotionally and most of the times they are not negative toward you because of you. Usually, it’s their own problems that make them negative. If you just understand that, you will care less about what they say to you.
There are times where your friends or people around you including your family simply get jealous with you. Even if you don’t have results for your business yet, they know that you are up to something. They know that you have goals and you are working to achieve your goals. This is where the jealousy kicks in because most of the people don’t have a big goal. Most of the people are used to live their average life. They feel comfortable having enough money to pay the bills. They prefer the security of having a stable job with stable income and that’s ok! If they are happy with it bless them! But if you are on your entrepreneurial journey and you have much bigger goals than just paying the bills than you need to prepare because you will hear things from your negative friends that might hurt you.
When I started my journey I was still weak and my mindset wasn’t right. It was very easy to convince me to do what I didn’t really want to do. In the first few months, I was struggling a lot. I didn’t have any money and I was using 100% of my time to make that business work. When I failed 2 times, my friend told me to quit because it just doesn’t work for me. He also tried to succeed and he couldn’t make it so he suggested me getting a stable job so at least I will be able to pay the bills. Well, I fall into that trap. I got a job and I was able to pay the bills but something was not right. I felt huge discomfort and I felt that I was forced to get a job. Yes, circumstances weren’t great or even good at that time but I couldn’t forget my vision. I set high goals for myself and I knew that I couldn’t achieve it working 10 hours a day and coming back home exhausted.
You are on your journey to reach your goals. Don’t fall into a trap that someone who failed prepared for you. My advice is to listen to only those advice that will pull you up. The once which will get you closer to your goals.
You can do 2 things to avoid negative people.
1. Spend less time with them.
2. Build a shield.
It’s much easier to just avoid negative friends but what if you have a strong relationship with them and you know them for more than 20 years! No matter how focused you are on your journey I can bet that you don’t want to be alone. I couldn’t cut off the relationships with all my friends, I did with few but it was just too hard to do it to all of them. So I build a shield.
The only way to protect yourself from negative people and negative opinions is to build a strong vision. I talk a lot about vision so you can check previous posts if you want to learn more about building a vision. Your vision should be bright enough to pull you through all the negative energy. If you have clear goals you will not care what other people say. I am serious, when you keep focusing on your vision then you will say “so what, I know where I am going” to any negative person or other’s opinion.
If you still can’t handle the negative friends it means you need to work a little bit more on building your vision. You still can just run away and avoid your friends, but being alone doesn’t help you with achieving your goals.
So to finish this post, remember that the best way to deal with negative friends is to understand them and to build a shield that will pull you through all the negativity and doubts.
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