Do you want to overcome a negative Opinion about you or your business? Read this post to learn how you can overcome other’s opinion so you could succeed.
“What would the neighbors say” is the phrase that my mother says all the time. When my father or I had some kind of idea or we wanted to do something differently my mother always stopped us. Unfortunately, I grew with this kind of mentality and I was struggling with it for a long time.
People’s eyes were the scariest thing for me. If you don’t have this problem it will be hard for you to imagine how stressful and tiring it is. I couldn’t take off the t-shirt at the beach because my stomach wasn’t flat, I had many great business ideas but I kept them to myself. When I was walking on the street I was looking at everybody’s eyes to make sure that they are not looking at me. On parent’s meeting in the school, I was just sitting and listening, didn’t want to say anything about a class project, ideas etc. because I was afraid of other’s opinion about what I say. This is sick and you can’t live normally with this kind of problem.
As I mentioned before I always heard “What would the neighbors say” from my mother. This fear of other’s opinion, the fear of judgments usually comes from early age. The trigger that will make you suffer from this can be something that you heard constantly when you were little or it could be something that you heard 1 time. It’s really hard to say what really triggered your mind to be this way. It depends on people’s mentality.
There is a way to get rid of it so you could start living the life because with this kind of problem it’s really hard to live. The first step is to find out what triggered you to have this problem.
Try to think about situations that made you feel uncomfortable. It will be even better if you could write on the paper all the situations that made you feel uncomfortable or really upset that has something to do with other’s opinion.
It might be something that your parents or friends told you or it could be something that you heard about yourself from the class gossiping. I am sure you can think of somethings. Now when you have all those things listened to the piece of paper, try to recognize the one or two which are the most painful. If you focus and you do it right, you will find the trigger that made you be afraid of other’s opinion.
One way is to try to focus on something else. The problem here is that you stop yourself from doing something because you focus so much on people’s eyes and their opinion. You need to find something else to focus on. It should be something positive and if it’s possible that thing should bring you a joy. For example, if you are on the beach with your kids and you are afraid to take off your t-shirt because you are scared of people’s eyes. Focus on your kid’s smiling face. Look how happy they are when they are playing in the water. Remember that your kids will not remember your fat stomach. They will remember You playing with beautiful memories you can create for your kids are way more important than someone’s opinion about your look.
Another way are to realize that people don’t really care about your look or about your ideas. Most of the people are focused on themselves like you are focusing on yourself when the fear of other’s opinion comes to you.
The last but powerful way is to punch the fear between the eyes. Wait a second, I said “Punch The Fear” not someone who judges you. The two ways above are great and really help, but the most powerful thing to overcome the fear is to step up. The first 5 times, won’t be easy. You might sweat, your heart will be working faster and you will feel like you want to puke. But one day or another you need to go through this if you want to start living. When you do it a couple of times you will realize that there was nothing to be afraid of. You will realize that you actually have good ideas and that people are actually listening to you.
Which one do you choose? I just want you to realize that if you don’t take care of this problem. You won’t get out of the cage. That’s correct. You are living in a cage where you can’t say what you want to say, where your good ideas are dying and without realizing the amount of stress you have brings you to the death faster than you think.
Do the 3 exercises couple of times and you will realize that your life is starting to change. You will realize that your business finally start to work and you have more energy to do amazing things.
There is an awesome song where I believe will make you feel better and will motivate you. It’s all about what I just wrote and the clip shows you ever more and teaches you to not care about people opinion.