Having trouble with Believing in yourself? Would you like to be more confident to pursue your dreams? Read this post to start believing in yourself.
Many people in this world are not confident, they don’t believe in themselves and more than often this prevents them living a happy life. Today I want to share some thoughts about this topic with you.
We as humans learn by what we see, hear and experience. Unfortunately or fortunately we learn things about people and the world when we are very small. We learn all the things when we don’t know anything about the world. It means that we learn how to react to some specific situations from people that are the closest to using. Usually, it’s our parents, brothers, sisters and everyone else who was around us when we were babies. This is a good thing for a person who was born in the happy and wealthy family, but for most of the people, their families are the exact opposite of happiness and wealth.
I agree that some of the personality comes with our DNA, but it always can be easily covered by the things we learn while we are growing. I want you to think about your childhood, what kind of people were around you. Do you see any connection between people you know and your own personality? No? Then ask your husband or wife and they will tell you the truth. It’s difficult to notice things about ourselves, I didn’t realize that I act and say things like my mother who is honestly a complainer. Even when my wife for years was telling be about it, instead of listening I was getting upset and telling her that it’s not true.
You need to find what kind of personality connection you have with people who were a role model for you in your childhood. Without it, you won’t be able to change your beliefs fast. If you can’t see a connection maybe you can use some professionals to help you with it. Believe me, it’s not a shame and it’s not embarrassing to go to a psychologist or a psychiatrist.
This is the most difficult part, especially if you didn’t believe in yourself for more than 5 years. Don’t worry, almost all of adult people who have a problem with self-believing are suffering from this for more than 5 years.
Here is a small exercise to get you out of the “I suck!” state of mind.
I don’t know how old you are but I am sure you had many different experiences in your life. Now, I want you to think about things you accomplished. Before you say “I didn’t accomplish anything” I just want to say that it can be anything! Even the very small thing that everybody can do.
Here are some questions to help you out:
1. Have you ever had a boyfriend/girlfriend?
2. Have you ever lived by yourself?
3. Have you ever made a meal for yourself?
4. Have you ever got a score higher than F in the school?
5. Do you have wife/husband, kids?
6. Do you have a driving licence or any kind of licence?
7. Do you know how to use a computer or open an email?
8. Do you know how to read?
I can bet million dollars that you can answer “YES” to at least 1 of these questions. If you disagree then how are you able to read this post?
I just want you to see that there are things that you’ve accomplished. Maybe it wasn’t easy, maybe you failed many times but you did it. Many people stop believing in themselves because of some small failures. Because there was anyone to tell them “It’s OK! Try again“. Once you get caught in limited beliefs cage it’s hard to get out and suddenly you start to think that you are not able to do anything. Your lack of confidence comes from the lack of experience. When you are about to do something new, you are not sure if you can do it. Who does? Everybody have some kind of small or bigger doubts, the question is if you will allow your doubts to stop you from at least trying doing something new?
As you can see by the questions about, those are small achievements but you don’t learn them in the next 5 minutes after you are born. You learn those things little by little and even you fail the desire of accomplishing the task push you to try again.
I want you to realize that you’ve done amazing things in your past, you just forgot about them. I want you to tell yourself every morning “I can do it and there is anybody or any situation that can stop me!“.
This is not for everybody, but when your desire to become more confident is much bigger than your fears I recommend you to practice this strategy. A simple “Fake it till you make it“. When you practice believing in yourself and when on purpose you push yourself into uncomfortable or new situations, at some point you will become confident of your actions and yourself. As I said, it’s not for everybody, but this drastic strategy works.
I believe in you because you are here. You are reading this post on purpose and I know that there are great things waiting for you. If you weren’t a fighter you would not waste your time to read this post. I admire fighters. I admire people who are willing to change their lives and those who are willing to help others. Sometimes life is not easy and it can dig a hole just in front of you, but that’s because you don’t give up and because you can see a brighter future you will succeed. So I believe in you and I admire ever small failure and every small victory of yours.
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